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Lately I have been trying to make my life feel more fulfilled. I was stuck in this phase of where I didn’t want to do anything (especially on days off work) and got nothing done. Ever. I was being a lazy piece of s***, to be brief. I started re-evaluating everything and wanting to better my life and feel the sense of accomplishment, even if it was the tiniest of things. I’ve always had self-confident issues pertaining to my skin and acne. So I made a conscience effort to wash my face every single day, at least once. This was about 3 weeks ago and I have not missed a single day yet, and I really think it’s making a difference in my skin. This has brought my confidence up, so I thought I would take on another small task, which is writing. And I mean on my MS. I write emails and go on social media all the time, but I DO NOT count that. (And if you’re a writer, I really don’t think you should count it, either.)
So far it’s been going pretty well! I’m also trying to read a little bit everyday as well. I told you, I was the laziest potato ever, but I’m up to three daily goals now. I used to hear people talk about having daily goals all the time and honestly, I used to roll my eyes at it. I’d say “I’m not that ambitious” or “that seems like way too much work…” But I have to say, now that I’m doing it, I can see why people do it.
The key is starting very small. This is something I think I overlooked and thought that it needed to be something pretty significant. Daily goals can also help with diets and other things. I think of it like a snowball; they can be used to build up to much bigger goals. Change can be hard for a lot of people, but if you begin with one little thing that you want to improve on, it gets easier the more you do it, and it helps you to want to do it everyday.
I also think it can help those who suffer from depression. It gives you a sense of purpose and again, fulfillment. I was at a low point in my life about a month ago, not really seeing a reason to get out of bed. And if this is you right now, literally pick anything that you want to improve. Something you can control easily. I would love to put to stop biting my nails, but…
“…it’s hard to stop a habit. It’s way easier to start a new habit; but a good one.”
Here are some you can think about starting:
- Drinking a glass of water everyday; or a specific amount (like 16oz)
- Flossing right after brushing your teeth
- Reading/Writing for an hour a day
- Walk a certain number a steps per day.
- Play a game that challenges your mind once a day (if you have a smart phone)
- And a million other things
Since starting this, I don’t sit around playing video games, or watching TV or playing on my phone as much. I have only a handful of daily goals I’m doing right now, and frankly, if that’s all you do, there is no shame. It’s not a competition, you’re doing all of this for yourself. Six months from now, you may only be taking on 2 daily goals, but at least you are still doing it. And that’s all that matters.
If you get overwhelmed or keep skipping tasks daily, cut back one or two things and just focus on those. Once you get back into the habit again, just add one more. Do this for a few months, then add another if you can. It’s all about self-improvement and making your life wonderful.
If you have any daily goals or advice you would like to share, I highly encourage it! Please comment below!
Laura Mae ❤
I want to talk about something that is more bloggy and not really writing related. However, I feel like a lot of writers could sympathize with this trait, which of course is social anxiety. I was talking with a friend of mine recently and she told me she had really bad social anxiety and if you knew her, you wouldn’t think so. To me she seems very confident and charismatic, but I guess it’s because I knew her well enough for her to be comfortable around me. And then the very next day, my best friend invites me to a girls night out . While we’re on our way there, we start talking about… you guessed it; social anxiety. I thought this was too strange to not talk about.
In case you aren’t aware, social anxiety is a feeling a person gets when they are surrounded by a lot of other people they don’t know. It’s a feeling that shuts most of us down and we climb back into the comfort of our shells. For me, it’s gotten so bad to the point I left the get together my ex boyfriend put together and I sat in the car the rest of the time. This is not a fun time. It’s not only the fact that you feel the pressure to be outgoing to strangers you don’t know, even though you are not an outgoing person, but you also feel the pressure of the host (or boyfriend) getting upset with you because you disappeared. When he finally found me, it was not a fun conversation. He didn’t understand and it made me cry; and he hated when I cried. So, ya know, MORE pressure.
There was another time I was out with my sister and she invited me to a place filled with her co-workers from work. And when I say filled, there were at least 20 people there that all knew each other and I sat in the corner like an awkward turtle. I tried to make small talk, but it usually only lasted a minute and then they would get bored. I’m not one to initiate conversations to strangers. But I am totally different if people ask me questions, because I am a friendly person and I want to talk and get to know people, it’s just hard sometimes. I ended up leaving that party to and hiding in the car. Luckily my sister understood and helped me a little out of my shell.
I guess the point of this blog is to be aware of what social anxiety is and that it is a real thing and to understand it. We’re not trying to be rude to your friends or create drama by leaving an uncomfortable situation. (trust me, drama is the LAST thing we want) I feel like my sister did the right thing by asking me what was wrong and trying to help, rather than getting upset that I just left and tried to ruin her night.
Having friends in your life who know you have this, can help so much and actually helps to build better friendships.
Oh, the girls night out wasn’t bad. I debated texting my friend from the bathroom to tell her I was ready to leave, but I also didn’t want to be that person to make her leave if she was having a good time. I knew she had the same issue I had, but she knew more of them than I did and she opened up more. I ended up not telling her over text and tried to be more social. It was awkward for sure, but certain things they talked about I was able to contribute too, and that helped a lot.
You may not experience this yourself, but may have friends who do. It’s all about how you react. Try to understand why they might be quieter than usual, or leave frequently. don’t get upset or call them out in front of others. You’ll only push them further away.
Omg, I just realized I never told you guys that I did a podcast a couple weeks ago! I’m so sorry. It’s been a little crazy. Here is that podcast if you’re interested: Podcast.
The ladies who interviewed me were super nice. If you happen to look at any of the other podcast interviews, I really enjoyed most of them and they cover every aspect of the writing world. Especially when it comes to independent authors. The topic I chose was all about social media and the importance of it. If it’s not your thing, I would suggest taking a listen to understand why we need it when it comes to marketing ourselves.
So in case you haven’t been keeping up, my second book is out in less than 2 weeks! 8 days to be exact. I CAN’T BELIEVE HOW CLOSE IT’S GETTING! I’ve been trying to get things ready with it and perfecting it before it goes public. But let me just say how incredibly grateful I am to my ARC readers! Of course I didn’t have a perfect, error-free manuscript and they told me! Just little things here and there, but sometimes it can really take the reader out of the story. One thing that was found was really helpful as it was an inconsistency as far as age went. So, I was super happy that was noticed. And I’m also very happy that some of them submitted reviews already, letting everyone know what they are getting before they get it. It’s so awesome. Thank you guys!
Besides book things, I was recently promoted at my day job and that has me much busier than before. I’m actually really happy where I am too because I have more responsibilities and get to actually talk to people on the phone and build relationships. It’s much better than directing calls and dispatching (it can get old, fast). But now that my boss just left and we have no one to replace him yet, it’s gonna probably get even busier.
Anyways, thought I’d give you all an update about what’s going on with me. I have also slowed down on the Indie-Go Interviews. I may start doing it again, but we’ll see. I hope you all have been doing well and that the summer heat isn’t dragging you down too much!
I see you smile at me from a distance
And my heart jumps at an instant.
You walk towards me with arms wide open
And right past me, to embrace another woman.
I can’t swallow, not even breathe,
Is it real or just a stupid dream?
I don’t know, I can’t tell,
It’s like you shut me into a shell.
I can’t see, I can’t hear,
I can’t hold you when you are near.
You don’t know, you don’t care,
You’ll be happy when my heart will tear.
Why can’t I tell you how I feel?
All the pain you caused me needs to heal.
You said you loved me when we went out,
I was in love with you, no doubt.
Then things got bad and you stopped calling,
I sat by the phone all night bawling.
I moved on in a month or two,
You moved on that night in June.
I forgot your number, I ripped up your letter,
I want you to know I found someone better.
You thought you loved me, I thought I loved you,
But all this time, I didn’t even know you.
And here’s some advice, get some help,
Cause all you’re trying to be is like everyone else.
-December 26th, 2004
It’s been officially announced! My second book is available to the world on June 25th, 2019. As of right now, it’s only available for pre-order on ebook. I will be sure to announce the pre-order for the paperback edition.
In case you’re wondering, I’ve been going exclusively through Ingram Spark this time around, rather than Amazon. (The ebook is through Amazon currently, but only because I want you all to get it pre-ordered!) I will be turning it off once it’s released but it will still be available on Amazon. Confused? Sorry…
But don’t worry! Someway, somehow, I will have Sparrows available to buy on it’s release date! If you’re not able to pre-order, just remember the date and it will be there to buy at your fingertips!
I also got my ARC copies in and posted my reaction video on the social medias if you want to watch. I am extremely satisfied with how it turned out! And good thing because I ordered a bunch and it would have sucked if there was a big issue! I’ll be sending them out to my ARC readers on Monday and I am dying from excitement to hear their thoughts on it. I honestly think I love this one more than the first, is that weird? I wrote this one so much quicker than the first one too, so I don’t know if that has anything to do with it. *shrugs* But I’m excited to hear what people think of all the new characters I’ve introduced and the new issues that have come up. It’s more gritty and deep.
My third and final book is still in the first draft process and I’m hoping to have it out sometime next year. I’m not rushing it though and I have some things going on in my personal life that take away from my writing. But I will do my best to release it in a timely manner. No George R.R. Martin fiasco’s. 😛
If you want to pre-order Sparrows on ebook, please click here! Otherwise, follow me on social medias to be alerted once the paperback is ready! Thank you all so much for your continued support and supporting indie authors. It means, literally, everything. ❤
Hello everybody! I should probably do one of those newsletter thingies that most authors do, but, I just feel not enough interesting things happen to me every month. Also, I’m not very productive, so there’s that.
But one thing I am SUPER excited to tell you — if you follow me on social media, you’ve probably already heard me talk about it — is that I have a booth at the Tucson Festival of Books! *waits for cheering* That’s right! This is my very first time I’ll be putting myself out there in the public eye as a real author. Self-publishing is a process that happens so much behind closed doors that when you finally get to show everyone that you are an author, it’s an unreal feeling. I’m not with some big-shot publisher or famous (obviously), so doing this, even if it’s in an Indie Pavilion for just 2 hours, is a big deal.
I will be sitting behind a GORGEOUS booth — decorated by the best book ever — from 2:30 – 4:30pm on Sunday, March 3rd. If you don’t know of the festival, um, shame. It’s a really big event that the University of Arizona puts on every year. They’ve had authors such as R.L. Stine be there and actors such as Jenna Fischer (Pam from The Office) show up before. So… yeah. I’ll admit, I have not been to it before as I’ve only lived in Tucson for a few years and suck at doing things and going to events, but I have always wanted to go. I have the links listed below if you’re interested in going.
The best part is that the Festival is run mainly by volunteers, people who just love reading and books. Tucson in general is a great community and loaded with local business’ and vendors. I’m a bit biased because I live here, but it’s really a wonderful town if you have the time to stop by and check it out. ❤
I hope to see you there!!!
Just as proof, look for my name here. 😉